I’ve always heard that being positive in life can result in positive things happening to you. It’s not always easy being positive due to many things that can influence the way we feel. A rude customer, an obnoxious co-worker, or a flat tire can all lead to having a bad day, but those are just small blips on the radar. We can’t sweat the small stuff.
I’m always amazed at how there are people who have been diagnosed with a potentially deadly disease, a home ravaged by fire, or those who have lost a loved one, but can still see the silver lining in the situation they’ve been put in. How can I complain about the weather when my sister and sister-in-law have to deal with chemo. I definitely try to use them as examples as how life in the positive can surely make me feel better about things that are out of my control (i.e. the Vikings currently going 0-2). Although it’s frustrating, it’s not the end of the world.
Having that positive outlook can lead to job and relationship opportunities that a pessimistic person may not be able to obtain. No employer wants to promote a person you constantly moans and groans about things whether it’s in reference to work or not. That doesn’t mean you need to become a brown-noser, but show that you are a hard worker and can make the best out of any situation. It shows that you can overcome any work related problem or emergency that may arise, which is a perfect quality for someone in a leadership role.
Now, let’s take a look at relationships outside the work place, such as romantic related ones. When someone is searching for a potential mate, they want someone who sees something for their future and is willing to chase it. No one wants to date someone who feels sorry for themselves and thinks the glass is half empty. That doesn’t mean for you to be overly perky or not be yourself, but just try to keep the negative comments to a minimum and at the very least you may forge a new friendship.
It’s not easy to think the best of a situation or the best of yourself. If you fail at something over and over again, how is that we can see that as a good thing. However, if you look at failure as a detour, not a dead-end street, or a means to an end, then and only then, is when you can be a lot easier to move on from. Henry Ford once said, “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” So, although failure can suck the life out of a person, it does not mean that you can’t recover. Positive people seem to always overcome their failures and I applaud those who can.
One thing that can I have found that a majority of people have a problem with is their looks. People seem to always find something negative about the way they look. Whether it’s their weight, their height, their hairstyle, or any of the hundreds of other body related issues, some people just can’t face that person in the mirror or when they do, they find fault with something that can be as minimal as the way that one hair seems out of place. The way we look is a presentation of ourselves to the rest of the world. I think that’s why our looks can provide so much stress. Weight can be lost, muscle can be gained, and nice clothes can be bought, but that doesn’t always solve the problem. My best advice is to hold your head up high, be who you are, and surround you with friends who love and care for you, regardless if you’re having a bad hair day. You’d be amazed at the benefits it can have on your self esteem.
So strive for the best, but know that it won’t be easy to make it to the top. There are going to be bumps on the road, but a smooth ride is just ahead. When you’re having a bad day, know that someone else has it worse. You are allowed to feel bad for yourself and or your situation, but don’t let that negative feeling become who you are. Deal with it and move on. I’m not guaranteeing riches or fame, but you’ll live a much happier life. That, I’m positive of.
To check out the article, I read, go to: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/5778756/how_to_be_great_at_everthing_you_do_pg2.html?cat=7
Information about the “Don’t Sweat the Small” stuff book series: http://www.dontsweat.com/
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