The Quintessential Good Girl: Why Guys Can’t Resist Her?

rehandsThe errant nature of guys has been synonymous as twiddling one’s thumb.Unbeknownst to many, boys seems complicated but contrary to this notion we’re quite simple.In our pubescent stages of erecting to our manhood, we’re lost in a time constraint world in trying to find ourselves, and in this time warp our main goal becomes finding a companion. Our bad behavior is all about our image, and to see how popular we become in this stage of disobedience. These egotistical tendencies becomes this phenomenon that attracts all girls to us. Like a magnet, they all come in every direction: from the bad girls, to the moderate good and bad girls, and to the really good girls.We thrive for the natural high of being wanted, but our objectives are the ones our parents have been talking about, the cooking, cleaning, obedient, stay-at-home good girls. Let me give you snippets of a man’s point of view. Why do guys fall for good girls?


The first reason is something I’ve coined and named “mother’s puppetry.” Mother’s puppetry is defined as boys’ attachment to their mothers.To further expand this, boys have an instinctive affinity in listening to their moms. This is inherent and becomes the natural order of a maternal mother’s ability to sway their son(s) in some way or another.The rebellious tendency of all boys’ behaviors reverts back to their mothers’ incessant pedagogical ways of finding Miss Perfect.This constant nagging is embedded in us by our mothers’ remarks of marrying the right girl, so life wouldn’t take the turn to the miserable seven letter word, yep you guessed it, divorce! As a consequence, becoming ostracized by the community. Remarks from your mother: “marry a pretty girl who loves her mom, marry a girl who is pure and values her virginity, marry a girl who doesn’t go out, marry a girl who doesn’t smoke, and marry a girl who is educated.” The list goes on infinitely, these main principles are measures instilled in us in identifying these so-called perfect good girls. This misanthropic behavioral symptom is the case in moms worldwide due to their unrelenting chase to find the perfect daughter-in-law, as they’re just trying to find the perfect wife for their sons—I wouldn’t blame them in trying to do so.

Secondly, aforementioned, we’d like that one perfect good girl that we’re searching for to be just like mom. Someone who has that everlasting enduring love towards their child, just like mom was to me. Someone who is compassionate and understanding, just like mom was to me. Someone who is a hard worker, and someone who loves to cook and clean, just like mom was. Someone who is there for dad no matter the situation, just like mom was. Lastly, someone who listens to dad and never interrupts, just like mom was. A perfect wife is docile and easily malleable to contour to your likings, as in a good girl that you’ve envisioned to be just like your mom.

Here’s a list of what guys like in a good girl:

1: Attraction is first no matter what anyone says, so she’s got to be cute.

2: Guys hate drama, so we’d like a girl who doesn’t talk back because guys are always right!

3: We want a girl who would listen to us no matter if we’re right or wrong; which goes back to answer 2.

4:We want an intelligent girl who’ll play down her intelligence when she’s around you.

5:She has to be able to communicate well, in both Hmong and English, and can easily win over your parents in just this alone.

6:She’s got your back no matter if you’re right or wrong; basically she’s down for you through thick and thin.

7.She’s laid back, humble, and is cool whenever your friends are around.

8.She loves your friends and family, especially your parents.

9.She has goals in life and is attending college or just graduated.

10. She’s supportive of all your goals and ambitions in life even though things aren’t panning out like it’s supposed to be.

11. She respects her elders.

12. She loves kids.

13. She’s fun and spontaneous.

14. You can talk to her and confide in her, as she’s your best friend.

15. And the list goes on…

So, here you bad girls find yourself thinking: “Damn, I haven’t yet found my Mr. Right!” Maybe you’ve got to ask yourself if you have these qualities of being a good girl. Once you’ve been able to mold yourself into having these qualities, is once guys start looking your way. Remember, looks may be the first attraction in a relationship, but what’s inside you as person is how long the guy will stay with YOU.

[email protected] response to article, “The Quintessential Bad Guy: Why Girls Can’t Resist him?”



  1. JerryThao

    October 13, 2009 at 12:42 PM

    How do you like me now?!?

  2. JerryThao

    October 13, 2009 at 12:42 PM

    Please comment freely on the subject if you'd like.

  3. Kashong

    October 14, 2009 at 6:58 AM


  4. JerryThao

    October 15, 2009 at 2:25 PM

    Hhhhmmmmm….okay…just let it out…

  5. Meng

    October 15, 2009 at 3:49 PM

    now this is an educational piece of writing

  6. Cindy

    October 23, 2009 at 1:36 AM

    So this was basically a want ad for Jerry Thao. I'd like to rewrite this article for you please.

  7. Cindy

    October 23, 2009 at 7:15 AM

    Now I feel bad-there's no need to rewrite this. You've actually just helped me out in a really big way.

  8. joua

    November 1, 2009 at 9:51 AM

    everything in this article is true. I believe that any girl does not need to change herself just for a guy to be with her. It's if he loves her or he doesn't.

  9. Another Cindy

    November 12, 2009 at 6:33 AM

    Jerry … Jerry … Jerry … you're lucky I gave my stress ball to Ryan otherwise I would have chucked it at you from across the room. I can't believe you BELIEVE that guys are always right … I hope you realize that it's not a good girl that lets you think you're right ALL the time … that's what we call a "nice" girl … any other girl would just be considered dense.

  10. MW

    November 19, 2009 at 3:41 AM

    "Our bad behavior is all about our image, and to see how popular we become in this stage of disobedience. These egotistical powers that we possess become a phenomenon that attracts all girls to us. Like a magnet, they all come in every direction from the bad girls, to the moderate semi-good and bad girls, and to the good girls"

    I'm kind of skeptic about that? so you are saying all girls are attracted to "Our bad behavior is all about our image, and to see how popular we become in this stage of disobedience" in the stage of adolescents.I don't think that ALL girls are necessarily attracted to that even though this is your opinion from a male point of view. this is a great article maybe you guys should do one on a woman's point of view.

  11. jerry Thao

    November 19, 2009 at 4:48 PM

    Other article is already there…look on…

  12. mmm

    November 22, 2009 at 6:23 AM

    this article's been quite interesting….yes, looks may matter…from my view…but i think that whether you're a bad girl, good girl, bad boy, good boy….it all has to do with communicating. you can be the finest person alive but if we're not connecting then there's really nothing there… and the list that you wrote down….just letting you know…any girl can do that…they just choose not to…AND if they really can't, well dammmnn girlll…i'm really sorry for you and that person you are with!

    and were girls…of course were going to have a mother-like theme. We may have different "mother-like themes", but we have it. come on now…we're girls, we've learned everything from our mothers so why won't we have that? but anywho. its really about connecting and communicating. =D nice article though. i enjoyed it!

  13. Minnie Vang

    November 24, 2009 at 11:00 PM

    All the qualities of a good girl is one who serves her man in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.

    Sometimes too much of being a good girl gets a little dull, so that's when cheating comes in. And why is it always the innocent girlfriend/wives that gets cheated on with some other hot and naughty gal? Guys just want it all.

  14. JerryThao

    November 25, 2009 at 2:11 PM


  15. lucy

    December 9, 2009 at 7:44 PM

    i hate this article…i feel bad for those good girls…what they have to do sounds so depressing…i rather die then kissing my husband feet…i believe in 50/50 relationship…

  16. JerryThao

    January 20, 2010 at 3:36 PM

    Can you define 50/50?

  17. Anusha

    September 14, 2012 at 1:25 AM

    Well, good luck, finding the good girl! Or if you have already found, congratulations! 🙂

  18. Halofire

    September 30, 2013 at 11:21 AM

    This article is egotistical. In your opinion, a supposedly “good girl” will play down her intelligence, doesn’t talk back, and listens to you no matter if you are right or wrong. Unfortunately, that is not a good girl but rather an obedient, subservient girl. There’s a difference and I don’t want people who read this article to misunderstand the two. A good girl has your back at all times, but she will tell you when are making an incredibly ignorant mistake. She will speak up. I’ll tell you what you want. You want a traditional girl who will take care of you like your mother and is always in the background. However, if you are your father, you will know that is more than your mother did. He had to listen to her behind closed doors when you didn’t. Nobody wants to be your mother. Marry a counterpart, not an overseer. And that’s what a good, intelligent girl who cares would say. You find them every so often when you stop listening to you own gibberish.

  19. Youa

    December 14, 2013 at 2:13 AM

    Wow. I know this is like, years later, but I really hope you grew up, Jerry Thao.

    This article pissed me off. How can you tell the “bad girls”(non-traditional girls/girls who don’t have half the qualities you like) to change so that guys will be attracted to them? You must be young, or naive to reality.

    What defines a good girl? Better yet, what defines a good person? A good person, to me, is someone who is courteous and open-minded. The good girl you listed leans more toward a spineless servant. She can have her own opinion, but yours will always overpower hers. You sound sexist.

    Your dad must’ve been the dominant one and your mom a willing, understanding servant. It sounds very traditional. And I’m not hatin’ on it, ’cause that’s all she knew. The Hmong culture is limited for women. She did what she had to do.

    But nowadays, these girls are changing, and so are the men. We are growing to gain equal ground, finally, where both partners can share opinions. And just ’cause a girl will talk back, it doesn’t mean she disrespects you, it means you should to listen to her opinion and respect her opinion as she respects yours. Many times, it;s a way of helping out. It;s called communication! If you feel like she’s belittling you by telling you her opinion, you probably have an ego issue.

    Don’t think of it terms of woman or man. Think of it as being a person. Would you like to be what you have listed in terms of a “good girl”? Let’s say, a “good boy” that must support his significant other even when she’s wrong? Never talk back? Act dumber around your girl? Cook and clean multiple times a day? Etc. Hell noo you wouldnt.

    Also, there’s a flaw in your logic that no one likes a bad girl. Lots of good guys and bad guys go for bad girls. I didn’t like the fact that you pretty much told all the “bad” girls to improve themselves. I don’t know you, but you come off as shallow. Many people I know are shallow ;cause they go for looks, rather than personality, but you.. just showed shallowness for personality. At least that what this article reflects.

    Another thing is, not all mothers are like yours. Studies do show that people pick partners who resemble their mom or dad, personality-wise. So youre on the right track.You are very lucky to have a devoted mom, and I do wish the best for you in your search to find someone like her, but I feel like telling girls who aren’t so ideal to become more ideal is rude.

    I know you feel that girls “should” be like what you say, and it would be nice, but wouldnt it be nice if you gave returned some of that goodness to her?

    Also, I feel like you won’t know what you want until you get it… you may not understand this statement now, but one day you might. You never choose who you fall for.

    Plus, not everyone has the intelligence OR the resources to graduate college.

    “Remember, looks may be the first attraction in a relationship, but what’s inside you as person is how long the guy will stay with YOU.”

    I completely agree, but I have a feeling you say the “inside” = good girl qualities. A girl can be whoever she wants to be – a girl who sucks at cooking, a girl who likes her simple job, a girl who is untamed and likes to party. There ARE guys who will go for those girls and stay with them and love them for all of eternity. I’ve seen it. If you’re wild, find someone to run wild with you, as Marilyn Monroe says. No one should care about what others think. I shouldn’t care about your opinion, even.. but I feel like since you wrote this, you should hear what you sound like to a big part of your audience.

    Being good does NOT EQUAL being a traditional, dumbed-down around you but still educated, social, cooking/cleaning servant, spineless cute girl.

    Omg, I can go on and on… but you know what they say about arguing on the internet. Just please, for your sake, you should consider opening your mind up. If you don’t, you’re possibly going to be the type no girl is attracted to.

  20. Cc

    July 23, 2014 at 1:02 PM

    You want a girl who will play down her intelligence around you and not talk back because the guy is always right…

    Please. Tell me you’re kidding. You’re kidding, right? I really, really hope that for their sake, girls stay far, faaaar away from you.

  21. Mimi

    June 4, 2015 at 10:53 PM

    Is this written in the 1950’s? So oldschool.

  22. shara

    July 20, 2015 at 10:29 PM

    You want a girl who won’t argue with you. The guys always right. You must be looking for a slice of cheese. TAKEN FROM KEVIN HART- GIRLS ARE RIGHT 99% OF THE TIME. THAT 1% WHERE THE GUYS IS RIGHT “ARE YOU DONE”

    :p how did I get on this page

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